RSVPs: What The Bride And Groom Need To Know. www.theweddingnotebook.com

This is a continuation of our previous post. It’s inevitable that some guests won’t RSVP, so here are some tips and what you can do.

Do notify your grandparents, immediate family and close relatives and friends six to nine months before your wedding day so that they can block the dates. For everyone else, do it no later than three months to your big day. If your wedding is going to be held on a long weekend or during major festive seasons, you might want to consider notifying everyone even earlier.

#01 Don’t Feel Obligated
“If I have to beg you to RSVP, I shouldn’t have invited you in the first place.” Someone said this recently and we think it is so true. Stop inviting people who don’t really matter; they probably feel the same way about you.

#02 Don’t Be Too Excited
The best time to send your invitations is under two months to your wedding day, when guests are more likely to be able to RSVP on the spot. The only exception should be friends and relatives from out of town who will need to make travel arrangements.

#03 Don’t Make Assumptions
Don’t assume that your guests will be able to make it. As a general rule, a quarter of your original guest list will not be able to make it, including about three percent who will pull out due to unforeseen circumstances. If your guests have not sent in their RSVP, give them a call.

#04 Don’t Expect It To Be Perfect
Update your guest list as often as you need to, but know that there will probably be changes even as you’re walking down the aisle. So print out a final version the day before your wedding and make last-minute changes with a pen.

#05 Better Safe Than Sorry
Send a mass reminder email or SMS to all your guests a week to three days before your wedding. You know, just in case.