The custom of bridesmaids is believed to have originated during the Anglo Saxon period, when young maidens would be dressed similarly to the bride and accompany her as protectors on her way to the groom’s village. They were meant to prevent spurned suitors from kidnapping the bride or stealing her dowry.
Traditionally, the Maid of Honour helps the bride dress before the wedding and helps her weave the wreath of aromatic flowers to ward off evil spirits. The term ‘Maid of Honour’ is believed to have originated from the United Kingdom, and means ‘female attendants to the Queen.’
Today, the Maid of Honour is no longer a decoy to deflect spurned suitors but nevertheless, her responsibilities are many. Never be pressured into making someone your Maid of Honour; at the end of the day, this person must be able to work with you and, if necessary, tolerate the bride-zilla in you. You don’t want to end up losing a friend.
So here are some tips on selecting your Maid of Honour:
Consider the responsibilities of a Maid of Honour. Choose the person you feel is the most responsible and meticulous, and who preferably has good taste. Remember that this person will help you choose your wedding gown, pick the flowers, etc.
Since the Maid of Honour will be your assistant, the more dependable she is, the more duties you will be able to delegate to her. On your wedding day, you will need someone who knows you very well, and who has your best interests in mind. She must be someone who is able to make decisions for you while you sit back and enjoy your big day.
As Maid of Honour, she is your go-to gal for emotional support. Let’s face it, planning a wedding is no easy task. Things will go wrong. And when they do, you need someone who will be able to give you the support you need and help you make tough decisions.
She must know when and how to have fun. After all, she will be playing hostess at your bridal shower and bachelorette party. At the same time, you need to know she won’t turn into a party animal on your wedding day and end up missing half the reception.